My Dear Clansters,
Firstly, my thanks to Parimal for giving the lead, yes “healthy
gossips?” Secondly, my thanks to Anju, as ever, supporting me to write, more
specifically this time on “gossip”. The
word “gossip” is so juicy. While I was
toying with two or three other topics , the pop-up word “gossip” auto-changed
all priorities. I am restricting this
post to CMR Clan, though it can otherwise be
accessed.
Straightaway, it is a bit confusing whether gossip can be good as well as bad,
all the more when the reference is given as “healthy” gossip. When you mention the word “gossip”, you are more
used to think of films/film star gossip, office gossip, of course,
family/friends gossip. You can keep on
adding, political gossip, face book gossip, tweeting gossip…..
When I consulted an online dictionary, gossip means:
1. Rumour or talk of a personal, sensational or intimate
nature 2. A person who habitually
spreads intimate or private rumours or facts
3. Trivial facts …………….
Gossip is a reference information passed by one person (say, A) about another person
(say, B) to other person/s (say, C or more
persons). Ok, let’s agree there
are three parties to a gossip. Gossiper,
gossipee and gossip-receivers or gossip well-wishers (Pardon me, I am not sure
if there are such words like gossipee and gossiper in English dictionary). Gossiper is also used as gossip-monger.
Gossip is almost always used with a negative reference. I continue to be confused how it can be referred
as “healthy gossip”. Healthy, yes, except
the subject party, the gossipee. If it
is healthy, then it should be something else.
Have we ever come across someone
saying “I gossiped nice about you”?
When we say “healthy”, it should be all-round harmony, isn’t it? When
was the last time you gossiped good and nice about someone? If we talk good or positive about some one
behind their back, can it be termed as good/healthy gossip? And do you call it a gossip?
Can someone think of coining a different word for “healthy gossip”?
How comfortable are
you, when the gossipee knows that you are the one who initiated the gossip?
I agree with the view point that “gossip helps you lose
weight”, though shared with a hearty smile.
You can even add that it helps to lessen your stress levels.
Gossip may be harmful, but not a crime. We are not saints (in fact, many saints are
subject matters of gossip). I am not
sure if there is healthy gossip, but gossip can be healthy, healthy for the
gossiper and gossip-receivers.
One area where gossips
may be healthy is celebrities/film industry.
If any reference is reported about film stars , they are happy and
healthy about the publicity the gossip generated. When the gossip is complete and all parties are aware of all the
contents of the gossip details, how does it feel?
Consider there is truth in a gossip. If the gossipee learns the truth through the gossip and corrects
himself/herself, can it be termed as “healthy gossip”? Can it be taken that the gossipee is grateful
for the gossip? If any one remembers
such “healthy” gossip, please share with the Clan.
Generally, when the gossiper comes to know about the gossip,
the response is “None of your business”.
On a serious note, yes. On a lighter
vein, I may feel fine and funny, if not
healthy. Have you observed closely, in any
gossip, “listeners” are more than the
actual gossiper. And, gossip is more colourful when ‘cosmetics’
are appropriately uploaded in the “story”.
Let us not forget that, when I gossip, I must be prepared to
get gossiped. After all, I am an ordinary guy and concerned about my stress
levels and good health, and occasionally gossip as and when opportunity throws up.
This is more a debate
on gossip. Please pour in your
inputs. Correct me where I am wrong. Else, it will end up as
gossip on debate.
Happy & Healthy gossiping!